Internet dating has everything to do with convenience; the luxury of being able to log-on and tap into your dating life whenever you have a spare few minutes, the time-saving ability to weed through dozens, even hundreds, of potential dates in no time, the built-in organization of dating websites like Datepad, which allows you to keep up with multiple people and various forms of communication at once, it's no wonder internet dating has quickly gone from new internet fad to universally-prevalent, completely legitimate social option.
Were all pressed for time, for any number of reasons. One of the most common reasons, as I understand it, is the presence of children. Ah yes, biology's little time consumers. Now, let me not misrepresent myself: I do not, repeat, DO NOT, have children. So I won't pretend to have the expertise to write any kind of advice on what it is like to be a single mother in the wide world of romance and sex.
I do, however, have single with baby friends and I myself have dipped into the single daddy dating pool once or twice. And from that, I have garnered a little experience about the ins and outs of dating someone with kids, which I now share with you.
Enjoy kids
Seems like a no brainer to me, but if you don't like kids, don't want any and don't want to be around them then you should think twice before dating someone with reproductive baggage. The kids are not going anywhere. Sure you might come around and learn to like, even love, these particular kids, and there is nothing wrong with testing the waters. But if you just don not like children you are better off not getting attached to that new internet dating hottie too quickly.
Be prepared to be second best at all times
It's a fact of life that many parents thought they had met the love of their life until the baby came along. Then their hearts melted, again. That's biology for you! When dating someone with children, you have to be realistic about who their priority is. It won't be you, it'll be their child. So you need to put your ego on the back burner.
All kids have a Mom AND a Dad
Okay, so you've met an amazing man. Funny, smart, ambitious and good looking and you're a smitten little kitten. You just love his adorable 5 year old and wonder of wonders, the little thing thinks you're okay too. Enter the mom. No, not your sweetie's mom; the baby mama.
I have heard that separated parents can have a very respectful and even friendly relationship. If that's the case here, then you can breathe a sigh of relief. Sort of. Because no matter how well the parents get along, and no matter how well you get along with the other parent, there will be baggage that needs dealing with. Hopefully for the kid's sake, the other parent will always be around.
Really, all of these points can be summed up by saying: be secure. That's the bottom line. Between dealing with still-around exes, coming in second place in your significant others priority list, and dealing with the sometimes bumbling awkwardness of becoming acclimated to dealing with kids, an insecure person will see those insecurities magnified.
If not acknowledged, confronted and tamed, those feelings will be the downfall of the relationship. As with any other type of relationship, it's good practice to do a self-assessment before getting involved with a single parent. And with a little luck, you'll find yourself with someone who is aware and patient enough to understand your position and hold your hand through the tricky parts.
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