If you've had a break-up, you're probably either trying to either trying to work out how to get over the person, or a way to win back lost love. Neither is so easy, but most of the fall to one or the other, with only only a few able to move on quickly without pining or wishing things might be different. You should actually think hard about the relationship and your ex before you do anything. Think about how things were and how they are going to be now. Attempt and be as unprejudiced as you can. You might decide that the break-up really isn't a bad idea.
If you decide to try to win back lost love, the 1st is to apologize. You could think you've done this. You could have asserted you were sorry several times. But if your ex thought you were apologizing just to stop a break-up, he or she would not believe the apology was sincere.
If you were the one that did something you need to say sorry for, apologize again. Now they might think the apology is sincere, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has finished, you won't be saying it only to put it but they are going to believe that you actually mean it. ( And hopefully, you do. )
When your ex was the person who did something worth saying sorry for, then instead of try and get a sincere apology from them, pardon them. You may never forget, especially if your break-up was because of cheating, but you need to learn to excuse. Forgiving is much more hard for some of us than only asserting, "I forgive you," though , so you may want to read a book or 2 on forgiveness and the way to actually mean it. If you want to win back lost love, this step will help you do it. And it can help stop issues in the future, too.
If you do succeed and you win back lost love, 3 or six or nine months into the just patched relationship, old issues might come up. If you have not forgiven the person for whatever was done to smash up the relationship, then you may have a hard time getting past everything. Old injuries would be reopened and it's likely that harmful things would be said.
But if you can truly forgive the person, then there will not be any necessity to rehash the past. While you're working on forgiving him for for whatever occurred to cause the break up, forgive them for the break up itself and you'll save yourself plenty of grief down the road.
Also, to win back lost love, show the person the "you" they fell in love with, not the "you" which has been dumped. They were with you because you have certain qualities-kindness, thoughtfulness-not because you are irritated, envious or hurt. While you might not be able to hide the hurt, concentrate on being the best "you" you can possibly be and you may win back lost love by reminding them why they loved you in the first place.
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