Have you ever had a girlfriend who'd ditch her friends, you included, for a guy? Let's say the two of you made plans for the museum on Saturday afternoon. When Saturday morning rolled around, she changed her plans to be with a guy she'd just met. Being the understanding friend that you are, you caved and said that it was fine.
Deep down inside, you're starting to become resentful and you feel more than a bit neglected. Here's a news flash for you; guys don't break guy plans to spend time with you, so you might want to think twice before cancelling gal pal plans for a guy. In truth, if he cared for you at all he'd be the first one to insist that you keep your original plan.
There is a popular policy in business where it's "first come, first served." Why can't it be that way in relationships? If the relationship is strong enough, being with friends every now and then should not tear you apart. It may actually make it stronger because it shows you have a life outside of him. Friends should be just as important as new partner and more than likely you probably have known your friends longer.
Most women will say that you shouldn't let friends come between you and a guy. The flip side of this is that you shouldn't let a guy, specifically your guy, come between you and your friends. Unfortunately, we've all known a woman who starts dating, drops her friends by the wayside and becomes totally involved with her new beau.
Phone calls become scarce as her new relationship consumes all her time. Perhaps the woman in question simply feels that this man is all she needs. Along with her friends, her work and other aspects of her personal may suffer as well. While you might think that you'd never let this happen to you, most women don't do this conscientiously, it just sort of sneaks up on them.
Remember, love should you complement you; make you a better person. It shouldn't leave you brain dead and possibly friendless and jobless. Think of this; the people that you're ignoring now in favor of your guy will be the same people that you will run to when the relationship sinks.
Although your friends may not say it, they probably wanted to confront you all along, but were apprehensive about putting a barrier on the friendship. Most caring friends keep their mouth shut and just listen to the sob story that is entirely of your own making.
If the man you are seeing is not able to understand that you have a life outside of him, then you don't need him. A woman needs to remember that she does not have to lose her identity just to be in love or involved in a relationship.
This article was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find thousands of helpful dating articles.
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