Going through a break up is a horrible emotional experience. If you have ever heard the song "Need You Now" by Lady Antebellum, if you haven't I suggest giving it a listen, it's a fantastic song. In the song the characters are going through all the pain of a break up and making a lot of mistakes.
One of the lines in the song states: "It's a quarter after one, I'm all alone and I need you now. Said I wouldn't call but I lost all control and I need you now." Mistake number 1, desperate dialing!
The other line I find interesting is: "It's a quarter after one, I'm a little drunk and I need you now." Drunk dialing is even worse. The other mistake that is often made is texting the ex, and texting and more texting. You become what is called a Text Terrorist.
What should you do to get your ex back?
First ask yourself a very personal question, and be open minded about it. Do I really want him or her back? Make sure there is a real and true love there, and that you are not just reacting to the situation.
So did you answer: Yes I want my ex back! If so there is a process for you to follow.
Make SUre You Do Not Do What Is Expected
At this time being predictable is the last thing you want to do. Keep your ex guessing and make them work their way back into your good standing. If you keep them on their toes they will keep coming back for more.
What can you do to keep from doing what is expected? Put an end to those daily habits. Chances are doing the same ol' same ol' is what got you here in the first place. It's time to add something fresh and exciting to your routine.
Make Sure You Have Relationship Goals
Even if you are separated goals can still be set. When you are trying to get your ex back, the goals are a vital part of the process. Goals should be set for different degrees of closeness and affection between the two of you and then achieving those goals is key.
Goals you might want to consider include: making physical changes, reaching emotional milestones, and controlling your temper just to get started. You'll have to find goals that are more appropriate to you and the type of relationship you had together.
Make Sure You Hold Yourself Accountable For Both Your Success And Failures
Accountability is something that is in surprisingly short supply lately. Be accountable to yourself for failing to meet goals. At the same time you should also reward yourself for the goals you do achieve.
Reward and punishment are great motivators. Use them well. Some rewards you might consider are new hair styles, new video games, or even a night on the town with friends. Be sure that you're doing things to encourage an active lifestyle whenever possible. You don't want to exacerbate existing problems by creating potential health problems along the way.
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